Someone's mentioned autism, ADHD or both…
but what does that actually mean for you?
(Why work with me)
You were the capable one. Top of your career, or running a business you built from nothing. People came to you when things needed sorting and nobody had a clue how hard you were working to keep it all together.
Then the burnout started. Maybe it crept on you slowly over years. Maybe this last wave of mysterious symptoms took your job, or put the business on pause and now you can't seem to "get back on it". You know you're capable of more. This life you've built no longer fits and needs a realignment, but you keep hitting a brick wall when trying to make changes.
If you think about it, your body's been waving a red flag for a while. Lifelong stomach issues and IBS that nobody can be bothered to get to the bottom of - not even you anymore! Maybe an ME or fibromyalgia diagnosis. Let's not even mention perimenopause - that seems to have hit you ten times harder than anyone you know (an your mum doesn't get it). You're fed up with all the pain that just hangs around.
And now someone's mentioned autism, ADHD or both.
Why it's taken this long?
Yep, you guessed it! The diagnostic checklists were mostly built from watching boys - white ones too. One large review found that for every three autistic boys diagnosed, only one girl was (Loomes et al., 2017). So they were hardly looking at you - a person surviving school ok.
Of course, "doing well" usually meant hiding it well. Researchers call it camouflaging (or masking) and the autistic adults they interviewed described it as exhausting (Hull et al., 2017). Keep it up long enough and you hit autistic burnout, a deep, lasting exhaustion that comes from years of life asking more from you than you've got to give - at least without the right support (Raymaker et al., 2020).
While you've been "fine" your body has been quietly disagreeing.
76%
of neurodivergent women experience persistent pain, five times more likely than age-matched peers (Asztély et al., 2019).
Diagnosis could be great. Support would be better.
In October 2026 the government's independent review into mental health, ADHD and autism said what I've been saying for years: "What matters most is that people can get help when they need it, without having to wait to be diagnosed first."
So whether you're diagnosed, on a waiting list, just wondering or couldn't care less about labels - you can start getting the support you deserve now.
When the life you built just doesn't fit anymore
Finding out more about yourself (like getting a diagnosis) later in life doesn't change who you are. You've always been you. What changes is that there are parts of your life that could be a better fit. The career, the business, the relationships, even how you rest… a lot of it was built by a version of you that was working overtime to fit in.
You don't have to burn it all down, perhaps you can even see what's next. Then you keep hitting that stupid ceiling anyway - even if it's just with a body that won't let you push through anymore. More mindset work or a shiny new strategy won't get you through it, because the block sits at the level of who you believe you're allowed to be. It's not a quick symptom fix like coaching can be seen to be, you know - to "get better with money" or "snack or doom scroll less" or "stop getting in trouble at work". It's identity work that keeps you in charge and feeling capable. Identity work that will ultimately change those symptoms, take the pressure off your body and get you better relationships. And that's the level we collaborate at so the change actually sticks and you're not just putting on a new mask.
A snippet about me
Neurodiversity & LGBTQIA+ Speaker, ICF Certified Coach
Neurodiversity Advocate of the Year 2026/27 (Prestige Business Awards)
15 years as a nurse, trained at Great Ormond Street
AuDHD
450+ people through my Unmask Without Fear workshop
Who I work with
Women, non-binary and gender-fluid people. You don't need a diagnosis. Self-diagnosis is validand if you're curious, you're welcome too.
That includes anyone stepping into something new: a new gender identity or sexual identity, a business, a legacy, or just a life that finally fits.
Why Work with Me?
You work one-to-one with me, every session.
I coach the person, not the diagnosis.
Each session leaves you with something you can use that week, not just something to think about
We work on identity and on what your body can actually cope with, so you stop crashing every time things go well, or badly
I'm an ICF Certified Coach, so you lead and I ask the questions that move us forward. I'm trauma-aware, but I'm not a therapist
What my clients say
"I have had the opportunity to be coached by Nicci several times and through that work have been able to get unstuck and accomplish tasks that I had struggled to initiate for months if not years. Nicci asks great questions that really challenged my own thought processes."
- Allana
"(cackle laugh) I'm laughing because, OMG Nicci, you've done it again, I've said it before, you just get it!"
- Jo
How collaborating with me works
This isn't a neat 1, 2, 3… it isn't linear.
1. Find the exhale
Most people need a lot of exhaling at the start, but we'll come back to it whenever life feels too much again.
2. Meet yourself
Meeting yourself is a bit like peeling an onion, one layer at a time. We'll never push you into a change you're not ready for… if part of you digs its heels in, we get curious about what it's protecting instead.
3. Build a life that fits
This is identity work, not goal setting. Changes come from knowing who you are now, rather than forcing new habits with willpower that runs out by Thursday... which is why they actually stick.
You have full autonomy.
Nothing gets tried without your say-so first, whether that's a nervous system reset, tapping or anything else. If something doesn't feel like a good fit, we won't try it. I bring the questions and the pattern spotting. You decide what's actually useful. Every time we meet, you'll leave with a take-home thought or an action plan to help ease the day-today irritations between sessions.
£87 a session, 20 sessions in total.
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